Question: In this moment, how do you feel?
Why do you feel what you feel?
Again, how does that make you feel?
The purpose of those questions are to connect you to your emotional body (so please make sure you answered them). Emotions are a crucial part of overall well-being. Our emotions can be in flux throughout the day based on our daily activities.
My favorite book to illustrate the way an event can influence our day is the classic Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day.
In this story, Alexander gets gum in his hair at the start of the day, and for the rest of the day he’s miserable and complaining about everything that went wrong.
People tend to do that. When something goes wrong (at any point during the day), our moods may go sour and nothing seems to go right.
But what if we take on a different perspective? A perspective that may help us cultivate joy?
What if when something feels uncomfortable or as if it is going wrong, we ask ourselves “what is going right?” What if instead we begin to ask, “What [concept, skill, information] am I learning from this situation?”
This small, in the moment tweak in our thought processes has the potential to shift an entire day.
This does not mean that we disregard any uncomfortable situations, negative emotions, concerns, etc. It means we shift into a growth and learning mindset. We begin to receive from each situation.
And how we view each day according to our emotions and daily activities affects our Wellness.
Well, what is Wellness? According to The National Wellness Institute,
Essentially, Wellness is what we define as success for ourselves. It is individualistic. It is holistic. It is a life where we feel satisfied.
What do you want for yourself? What does your ideal life look like? What’s stopping you from living your ideal life?
Answer those questions being completely honest with yourself (If you need some guidance or a visual, try the Circle of Life tool).
How does this relate to joy?
When we feel fulfilled and satisfied with the different areas of our lives, we feel joy. Please note, I use the term joy rather than happiness. Both joy and happiness are emotional states of great pleasure and satisfaction. However, joy is more commonly associated with internal pleasure. Joy is felt regardless of circumstances. It is everlasting happiness.
In life, having joy looks like being in a career or relationship where you are satisfied overall even if you occasionally feel saddened or frustrated by your job or partner.
In short, during your Health and Wellness Journey, ask yourself, in all things, “Does this bring me joy?”
And, from Deborah Adele in The Yamas and the Niyamas, “We don’t see things as they are. We see things as we are.”
📸: Jazmin Quaynor
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